LOVE & MARRIAGE

Whoever you are, wherever you are and wherever you go, be careful with relationships. Love can develop from nowhere to anywhere. Every human has something about him or her that attracts another; there is something about everyone that makes for falling in love. These things are the things that hide weaknesses until closeness is established. It is this situation that leads to love at first sight.

Relationships and love are twin sisters, they neither respect culture and traditions, ethnic group, religion, education, nor background. Before you think about these things you are already stuck, and pulling out is never easy. But the things you overlook will not overlook you; the things you neglect will not neglect you. They will come after you or for you sooner or later. When it happens, it gives birth to "had I known".

Why would you marry a short man or woman for love only to feel bad after few months into the relationship? When ideal and love fever settles, reality will surface. When the eyes that love closed opens, the light of marriage will make everything glaring. Love is very good at hiding tomorrow, but tomorrow must come. And when it comes, it comes with surprises. It comes with things one never thought of; it comes with things that may shake the foundation of love that people will wonder what is happening with the once envied love birds.

Many relationships are entered through the door of love but many end up, or exit through the door of regret and hatred. So, before you fall in love, consider your foundational orientation (your culture and traditions, your religious and family background, your ethnic group, your educational background). All these will come into play later in your marriage. Love is said to be blind, but marriage is the eye opener. The things hidden by love will later be exposed by marriage; the things you did not consider for love will later be considered in marriage.

Life is the experience of nature and nurture. The bloodline of your partner (the genes), the near and far environment of your partner, the academic environment - the school your spouse attended, the friends of your spouse, all play roles in the behavioral pattern of your partner. Marriage has the capacity to open the eyes that love closed; marriage has the capacity to reveal secrets love has hidden. Before you fall into love, purse and consider.

The things that did not make sense for love will later make sense for marriage. The things that made sense for love may later become nonsense in marriage. Marriage has the capacity to surprise lovers, and it has surprised many.

Love is never enough base to sustain and establish a relationship, especially marriage. People’s hidden traits will always surface later or sooner in long term relationships, marriage is an example.

Don't be deceived by the fairy emotions of love and romance. They wade and fane with time. When there is no solid basis for a relationship into marriage, the marriage will crumble as background orientations come into play.Why is it said that birds of the same feather flock together? People who have common orientation last longer in a relationship. There is nothing wrong with relationships and falling in love anywhere and anytime, but people need to open up for better understanding of themselves early in a relationship.

Love does not consider whether you are married or not; it does not consider your age - young or old; it does not consider your background - educated or illiterate. Most times, love only considers your appearance. But these things you fail to consider will come to play out in your marriage, in the near or far future. Pretending and opening up in the middle of the relationship, especially marriage, and when the relationship has been sealed with children is not the best. Hay should be made when the sun is still shining.

Considering what you failed to consider years ago is a big omission; asking questions you should have asked years ago is a serious mistake. The blindness of love could be the blindness of the devil, an instrument of the devil to trap you in the future.

Some people marry with the hope of changing their partner but it does not always work like that. Foundation is foundation, orientation is orientation.When we do the right thing at the right time we will escape the trap of the evil one. But when we fail to do the right thing, we will face the consequences. In most cases, the consequences come in the form of separation and divorce, or endurance and regret.Some religious people claim the will of God. Who is fooling whom?

In conclusion partners must be fully aware of what they are going into. Marriage should not be a jump in and jump out thing . Children, families and the society suffer the consequences. What's the gain or benefits of happiness today, and sadness tomorrow?

We must restore the dignity of the marriage and family institution and make the world a better place for all.

Thanks to all who have provided me with audience this year 2024,I promise you more insightful blogs next year,God bless y'all and have a prosperous new year 2025.